A few months ago I asked our audience on Instagram to pass along some anonymous advice from one bride to another to help them have the best wedding day. I polled brides who had just gotten married that month to brides who got married years, even a over a decade ago. From this wide range of brides, I honestly had to nod my head with almost every single piece of wisdom these brides shared, anonymously, with other brides who were planning their wedding day. The amount of similarities of advice and golden nuggets these brides gave was honestly so refreshing as I related to so many of these past brides & I just knew I wanted to share this advice with you! Side note if you aren’t already following us on instagram, make sure you do that after reading this juicy post as I spill all the tea from one bride to another, advice on actually enjoying your wedding day!

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Tip #1: “Don’t sweat the small stuff”

I realize that the feeling of overwhelm may be hitting you pretty hard leading up to your wedding day, but if there’s one piece of advice that brides gave over and over again it was that ”everything else could go wrong but if your partner shows up & you say I do, nothing else matters”. You guys, you are MARRYING your BESTIE!!! Let’s just let that fact sink in for a second… got it? Good! I remember leading up to our own wedding there were so many tiny details that I had envisioned & worried about for our wedding day, but on the wedding day, literally NONE of those things mattered! From our guests being cool enough on a hot as fudddgeee August wedding day & supplying ‘cooling stations’, a perfectly laid out seating chart, having the exact amount of mismatched cutlery with no two mismatched vintage china beside each other to having the perfect reception playlist for dinner time. But you guys, seriously “don’t sweat the small stuff, you’re the only one who will know if things didn’t get done how you envisioned them” could not be anymore true! In fact, I remember we skimped out and opted to not have a DJ and instead used an old phone with a playlist for all our music. As I was about to walk down the aisle and see Morgan, my phone overheated & completely stopped responding, which left my day of person in charge scrambling to get her own phone connected in time, find my walking down the aisle song from youtube, skip the ads, and hope that it was the right version of the song I had picked out (talk about the little details stress). But I gotta be honest, I couldn’t hear a THING as I walked down that aisle, all I wanted was to just be with Morgan and in his arms and to finally say I do to the man of my dreams! Literally no one noticed the hiccup with our music, including Morgan or me, and all that mattered was I got to marry my BFF & as one bride said “don’t stress everything will fall into place!”

Tip #2: “make sure you have someone to handle the little things”

Oh wow, if there’s one vendor that we recommend to ALL of our brides & grooms, it is to hire a day of coordinator! Either hiring a wedding planner from day one, a month of coordinator, or simply a day of wedding coordinator, try to make room in your budget for vendor who will be such huge piece of mind! If there’s one thing that will take away so much from you enjoying your wedding day, it’s the constant stream of guests/vendors/moms (sorry moms, we love you but….), asking you the bride or you the groom where xyz is/goes, what time is the dinner, what do we do during the reception, how do you want these tables set up, when is the cake cutting, do I get to make a speech, the list goes on and on, and as much as these people mean the best, it can really take away from you actually sitting back and enjoying your big day. As one bride said ”hiring a wedding coordinator saved me soooo much unnecessary stress”.

Tip #3: “spend extra money on the photographer!!!”

Not to toot our own horns, but if you’re looking for an awesome sauce hubby wife photo video team, Morg and I are here for you! But okay, really, we wish we could scream this from the heavens, DO NOT skimp on capturing your forever memories for a once in a lifetime real time event! After all months, even years of planning, the hard work and excitement of your wedding day is all over, your wedding photos and video will be the only tangible thing you have to remember your wedding day. I realize that wedding photographers and videographers can feel like a big expense, but having someone there to capture all the big and small moments that fly by on the wedding day that seem to all blur together, who can anticipate the moments of the day as they unfold, who has the ability to preserve a fleeting moment or allow you to hear what your dad actually said to you during his speech, on such a big day, who can really capture that deep, all encompassing love you have for your now HUSBAND or WIFE on your wedding day, is worth it!!! One bride said “spend money on a good photog, I paid cheap and got cheap, I had to hire another to mock our photos but we never got back those moments on the wedding day that we can never repeat”.

Tip #4: Take 5 minutes alone with your hubby/wife & take it all in

I was recently chatting with one of our previous brides about this piece of advice I gave her and her husband on their wedding day, and she said it was one of the absolutely HIGHLIGHTS of her wedding day & the piece of advice she gives to all her followers who are getting married. “The day flies by, take it all in and be grateful for the experience with your partner”. The one thing we recommend ALL of our couples do, is taking a solid 5 minutes away from all their guests, from their vendors, from us, where ever they can on their wedding day (normally dinner time is a great time for this as everyone is occupied eating and won’t notice you slip out for a few minutes), and just hold each other and let the entire day wash over you. This is most likely the only day in your entire lives that ALL the people that you love will be in one room together celebrating only your relationship. How fucking cool is that. How crazy is that. Take a moment to be thankful for those who could be there with you, be grateful for the relationship and life you’ve built with this amazing human whose hands you are holding, and let it all sink in, today is the first day of your lives as husband and wife.

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